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The Peculiar Utility Of The Reverse Emotions!

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Let us start this piece of a peculiar nature with a kind of disclaimer that although this is being written from a male perspective this should never be interpreted as misogynistic which it’s certainly not as you’ll understand accordingly. This is being written for the noblest of purposes: to try ensuring everlasting conjugal happiness and bliss what come may. Therefore, whenever I’ll mention ‘spouse’ it’d definitely mean the wife. Various situations crop up in households and in husband-wife relationships due to various reasons; and emotions abound, floating within the four walls eternally. The best way to handle these emotions, in certain unhappy conditions only, is to reverse these. The reversing process must come only from you, the husband, and it promises to be a very tough one; but, I assure you, it should be very effective although I don’t have any data in support and only throw up typical situations when this unique method can be practiced.   One day both of you wake up very

Self-Respect And Respecting Others!

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We more or less understand the meaning of self-respect which is to keep or show respect to one’s own self. A self-respecting person is one who tends to justify his/her deeds or actions or reactions in the intrinsic belief that s/he cannot possibly do or say wrong things, and if s/he gets insulted by others in the process or is asked to do or comply with ridiculous tasks s/he gets mortally offended. Losing one’s self-respect is often the end of the world for a truly self-respecting individual. This, of course, differs from individual to individual depending on the individual’s perception about it and whether his/her sense of self-respect is genuine or cultivated or vain. To this point we will come at a later context. First, we must try our best to explain the syndrome of self-respect or self-esteem further.   How does self-respect come about? We have to be clear about one thing that we cannot possibly create self-respect on our own; supposing we can the questions are at which stage

Relationships: Misplaced Priorities…A,B,C, Drivers…Maids And…!

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The family, particularly the Indian family, is supposedly the most closely-bound unit in terms of blood relations, in terms of proximity and in terms of unconditional love. In the joint family system, slowly dying even in India, there are tensions concerning the kitchen or concerning wives, husbands, brothers, in-laws and cousins. However, in all cases some people like drivers or domestic helps get into the thick of things. They understand the family moods, they know the underlying conflicts if any, have access to all the secrets and they are always conditioned to swim as per the waters. They are immensely capable of bringing a mere disagreement in the family into a shattering climax and can be a party to damaging relationships, sometimes irreparably. The members of the family in their effort to manage such ‘members’ often succumb to these third-party plays and the misplaced priorities catapult the happy family into an apparently insoluble crisis.   We will take examples describing t